Preparing Your Child For Marriage

Preparing Your Child For Marriage
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when
he is old, he will not depart from it.”
Proverbs 22:6
To train means to narrow, conveying the thought of marking a clear path for our children by removing the unnecessary and focusing on that of lasting value – setting Biblical boundaries (Proverbs 13:6). Many parents unwisely encourage their children to experiment with various philosophies of life. We should spend more time teaching our children the truth instead.
Ask God Daily for Wisdom and Strength
• “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God” – James 1:5
• Esther 2:11 – Read Job 1:5 – “Thus did Job continually”
Pray Consistently for Their Future Spouse
• Salvation, purity, protection, maturity, respect for authority, etc.
• Development of Christ-like character – Philippians 2:5
Teach Them Early on God’s Plan for Their Lives
• Own identity – responsibility – “God wants you to get married and raise a godly family of your own someday” – Malachi 2:15; Proverbs 31:1; I Thessalonians 4:1-8
• God’s blueprint for building a strong family is found in His Word – Ephesians 5:18-6:4
Develop in Them a Servants Heart
• Marry for what you can give, not get – dead to self – filled with (controlled by) the Holy Spirit
• Marriage brings many responsibilities – will have to be mature and settle in – “leave and cleave”
• Life-long commitment to God and one another “Till death us do part” – “let not man put asunder” – Matthew 19:6
Uphold the Standard of Purity in the Home
• The parent’s job is to guard the hearts and minds of their children until they are old enough to do it for themselves – “simple concerning evil” – Romans 16:19
• Teach – “greatest gift you can give your spouse is yourself” – pure in heart, mind, and body – do not play the dating game and give your heart and body to many, but rather save it all for that special one
Show Them How to Walk With God
• “You cannot impart what you do not possess” – consecration of life – yielded to God’s will
• Daily prayer and Bible reading – abiding in Christ – heart and mind of discernment
– I John 4:1
• Good steward of time, talent, and treasure – Romans 12:1,2
Remind Them to Wait on God’s Timing
• Right one, right way, right time – no unequal yokes – II Corinthians 6:14
• “If in doubt, don’t” – “Don’t settle for second best”
• Approval of parents with insight and counsel of your pastor
Help Them Plan a Truly Christian Marriage
• Pre-marital counseling – Christ-honoring ceremony – establishment of a Christian home that pleases God in all areas – i.e.. faithful church attendance, family altar, Christian service, financial stewardship, child-rearing, etc.
–Tim Cruse

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